Angry? At me?

So, I don't get the anger directed at me.  This may be one of the toughest things to take - at least for this five minutes.  My hurts rotate and go up and down - but for now, I don't understand the anger.  On the one hand, I don't get a free pass when I screw up.  But don't I get some leeway?  And, it seems that the anger when I do screw up is greater than it should be.  Why am I the one trying to keep my anger in check?  Why am I the one making the greater (as I perceive it) effort.  I have a LOT more to get over other than the fact that I came home from the grocery store with everything except the one thing I went to get.

If we are measuring responses, I am a lot more justified in being angry than she is.  And yet, I'm the one in the proverbial doghouse.

I just want to be treated nicely.  Don't I at least deserve that?